Abstinence - The Choice Is Yours
Did you know?
- The majority of teens in Canada
- Reasons teens give for not having
They don't feel ready.
They're afraid - of pregnancy, Sexually transmitted infections (STI)
including HIV and AIDS, or of getting a bad reputation.
They are waiting for the right
person to come along.
Abstinence is the only 100% effective
way to avoid getting an STI.
Reasons for Choosing Abstinence
- Abstinence reduces the risk of
unplanned pregnancy. (Pregnancy can still occur if sperm is ejaculated
near the entrance to the vagina.)
- Abstinence reduces the risk of getting
a sexually transmitted infection which are passed by contact with
infected mucous membranes.
- Abstinence reduces the risk of cervical
cancer. (Research suggests a connection between early sexual activity,
multiple sexual partners, and occurrence of cervical cancer in women.)
- Showing love in ways other than sexual
intercourse is an important part of successful romantic relationships.
- You can have a close, loving
relationship without sexual intercourse.
- Abstinence from sexual intercourse can
allow a couple to develop a deeper friendship as they spend time
talking, discovering mutual interests and establishing non-sexual
intimacy characterized by trust, honesty, sharing and commitment.
- Abstinence can protect the couple from
deep emotional hurt and a feeling of possessiveness that can occur in a
sexually active relationship.
- Abstinence can be a sign of real
emotional maturity. Many young women and men speak of feeling pressured
into sexual intercourse before they are ready. It takes maturity and
honesty to resist the pressure of someone you love in order to make a
decision that is consistent with personal values and needs.
- Even if you have had sexual intercourse
in the past, you can still feel proud of yourself for practicing
Choices today have an impact on your future. Think of where
you would like to be in 5, 10, 20, 30 years. Consider family, marriage,
education, career and children. How would an unplanned pregnancy or HIV
positive status impact on these dreams?