Are You Right For Each Other?

Healthy Relationships

What's Important To You In A Relationship?

Rank from 1 to 12:

Add a star (*) if this is part of your relationship. If possible, compare your list with your friend/partner's.
 

Friendship Facts

C are for and consider each other's feelings.
O penness and honesty with each other is a MUST.
M ean what you say and say what you mean.
M utual respect; when you respect yourself, others do, too.
U nderstand each other's strengths and weaknesses; don't try to change someone.
N urture (build) your friend/partner's self-esteem and think positively about yourself.
I ndividuality; know that each of you is special. Be yourself!
C larify when you're not sure what's being said or what's intended - check it out!
A ctively listen to each other, especially for feelings.
T rust yourself and your friend/partner. Enjoy each other's company.
E ncourage and support each other in your future goals.

Relationship Quiz

1.  Do you find that your friend/partner doesn't want you to see other friends or participate in activities that do not include him/her?

2.  Does your friend/partner criticize the way you dress, talk, dance?

3.  Are there times when your friend/ partner's teasing hurts your feelings?

4.  Does your friend/partner make fun of you in front of family or friends?

5.  Do you mutually decide what you do during your time together?

6.  Do you ever feel pressured to do something you do not approve of?

7.  Has your friend/partner ever hit you?

8.  Do you feel free to say "no" without having to explain your reasons?

9.  Does your friend/partner help you feel good about yourself?

A "yes" response to questions 5, 8 and 9 indicates you are on the right path to a healthy relationship.

A "yes" response to any of the other questions could mean you need to examine your relationship more closely.
 

Bill of Rights

Both males and females have the right:

• to ask for a date
• to refuse a date
• to suggest activities
• to refuse any activities, even if your date is excited about them
• to have your own feelings
• to tell someone you don't like him/her to interrupt you
• to have your limits respected
• to spend your money the way you want to
• to refuse to accept unreasonable suggestions
• to refuse sex with anyone who just took you out on an expensive date
• to refuse sex with anyone

You have the responsibility:

• to determine your own limits; to ask for help when you need it
• to respect the limits of others
• to communicate clearly and honestly

Don't settle for second best! YOU ARE WORTH IT! Developed by Sexual Health Program, Hastings & Prince Edward Counties Health Unit. Adapted by Sexual Health Program, Grey Bruce Health Unit.